STUDY BOOK The power of language and actions, the basis for

COACHING: El poder del lenguaje y las acciones

Fears and difficulties in asking, offering or complaining. 2.2.

In the conversation, for the coordination of actions, we generate future actions to take care of the existing breakdown. Its aim is to make something happen, to intervene in the current state of affairs. When we enter into them, we try to change what is causing the breakdown or to take care of its consequences. We are changing things from their present state and are therefore producing a turnaround in the normal course of events. If we are successful, we can normally expect the break to be overcome.

What are the actions associated with the "action coordination talks"?

The linguistic acts that allow new realities to emerge are requests, offers, promises and declarations.

One of the most effective ways to deal with breakdowns is to ask for help . Knowing how to ask for help is another of life's fundamental language skills. Many people often find it difficult to ask for help. If we ask why, we usually find that they have different judgements about the consequences associated with asking for help. Some will say, "If I ask for help I show weakness"; others, "I may be told no and I will feel rejected. Therefore, I prefer to manage on my own"; others will argue, "If I ask for help, I commit myself to having to give it back and thereby lose independence", and so on. Judgements and more judgements. They determine what we define as possible for us. The consequences of not asking for help are therefore often prolonged suffering, ineffectiveness, isolation. Distinguishing between personal judgement conversations and action coordination conversations is also crucial in the business world. If a new product does not sell according to expectations, we could become paralyzed if we limit ourselves exclusively to self-judgement conversations. However, we can change the situation if, for example, we ask for an investigation. European Open Business School

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